Tell Someone
Most teens won’t admit to sexual abuse. They’ll refuse to talk about it or deny that anything ever happened. This happens for a number of reasons:
- They’re afraid to get in trouble.
- They’re afraid their abuser will hurt them or a member of the family.
- They’re afraid they will get taken away from their family.
- They believe their abuser loves them and they don’t want to lose that relationship.
- They feel too ashamed or embarrassed.
- They feel as if the abuse is normal.
Still, it’s important for victims of abuse to tell their story, because nobody has the right to hurt them. All people should feel safe, respected and in control of their own bodies. It can be painful for a victim to tell their story, but getting it out in the open can bring a great sense of relief.
If you are a victim of abuse, it’s important to know that keeping it a secret doesn’t mean you’re weak, that you wanted it to happen or could have stopped it. But you can stop the abuse and begin your healing by telling a trusted person, someone who can protect you in the future, or help you come to terms with what has happened.
Finding someone to share your story with can be difficult, especially if your abuser is a family member or trusted friend. What you need to know is there are other people in your life that can help, from non-offending parents to friends, teachers, coaches, and beyond. You can also call the Division for Children, Youth and Families @ 1-800-894-5533, or contact your local police department. If you’re confused, or feel as if you have nowhere else to turn, contact us or the New Hampshire Coalition Against Domestic Violence. The important thing, for you, is to tell someone.
Sexual abuse is a crime and if you’re victim it is not your fault. Lots of help is available, but only if you let someone know what has happened to you.
